Life in Recovery

Explaining Yourself

I'm starting today's blog with a story that doesn't relate to addiction or recovery, but I hope that you'll get why I chose it when I'm done telling it. Let's start! In January 2015 I was on the lookout for a new car. Actually, I was looking for a very specific car. I was looking for a white Toyota 86 GTS in manual drive. I had saved up and my finances were in order. I was ready to buy one, but I needed to find one first. There aren't a lot of them over here - it's one of the worst...

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The Mondays

  Today is Thursday, but there's another day I'm writing about: Monday. I've noticed a very obvious pattern since I've started getting involved in the sober community. Mondays are the worst! Not in a "Ugh, the weekend is over" way, but in a "I just relapsed and blacked out the entire weekend" way. Besides Sober Trend, I started two other initiatives: Sober Time (Android / iOS) Talking Sober (Online Community)   What inspired me of the online format was the global exposure. If done right, my initiatives could reach thousands, and now hundreds of thousands, of people. That's something I couldn't do...

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The Addict's Brain - Winning arguments against yourself

  How’s your sober new year going? We are about ten days into 2017. Ten days might not sound like an awful lot of time, but for an addict it might as well be 10 years. Those first few days are often, if not usually, excruciating. There’s a lot you have to deal with. Things like social changes, routine changes – heck, even what you can watch on the TV (stupid alcohol adverts). The worst of them all is the withdrawal. Now, withdrawal is a widely discussed and generally well-known topic. Everyone knows your body starts to crave whatever addictive...

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New Year, New You? 4 Tips on Setting Yourself up for a Sober 2017

Happy new year! It's 2017 and 2016 is finally behind us. Or is it? Technically, it's only the date on the calendar that changed. We're celebrating going around the sun for another year. The new year is the start of renewed inspiration. Everyone's motivated to swing their life around and start living their dreams. This is great - up until about 20 January where most people lose it again. I need to tell you something. The calendar flipping over is not going to change your life. A new year is not going to keep you sober. The only thing that can...

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Handling Relapses - 5 Tips

You've probably thought about at least one of these before: "What happens if I relapse?" "What do I do after I relapsed?" "How can I avoid relapsing in the future?" This is something I see so often in the community. I'll be blunt: it happens to almost everyone. Beginners often relapse in the first week. Even people who've been sober for years relapse. Instead of giving up, this post is about carrying on and making the best out of it. Let's get started then. When someone relapses, the typical reactions usually are: It doesn't count, it was only one night...

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